I don't like to ask my parents to buy me things. Maybe it's because they often turn the request down, but for most of the part it is due to financial constraints. Outsiders took one glance at our family and said that we are rich, but the reality is of course, different. I did and will not ask my parents to buy me a hand phone, a motorcycle, a car or new clothings (I don't wear branded goods, and most of my cloths saw a lot of use)
Why so? Isn't a motorcycle, hand phone or car important? A transport to the school, and further on, university? A telecommunication tool with friends, is that not important? These are the questions that are often asked, and I will answer them.
I have no need for a car or a motorcycle. My family already have two cars; a Perdana V6 and an Iswara. My mother sends me and my sister to school every morning and fetch us in the afternoon. If my sister have class in the evening, she will send and fetch her. If I have class, I'll drive myself. Now, why don't I ask for a transport? My reasoning is: I'm not the one that pay for the fuel, therefore I should not be driving it. My friends, whose parents let them have cars and motorcycles, they went everywhere without giving a consideration on who will be paying the energy used. Will their pockets hurt? No, they're not paying, their parents will. And when there's an accident, who will take care of the car/motorcycle? Their parents. And the teenagers will drive to their liking. Why worry? Anything happens, parents pay mah!
As for telecommunication, it might suprise you that I share my hand phone with my mother. One number, two people. I don't take my phone to school since it is illegal to do so, and the loss of a phone will hurt, very much so. As usual, my friends tend to show off their newer and classier handphones, with things they don't even use like EDGE, MMS and henceforth. Me, I'm content with my (our) 3310. And the issue of funding again rises. Who will pay the bills (if they use postpaid) or who will pay the cards (if they use prepaid)? As prepaids are more popular, I will take that for an example. Parents are supposed to give quotas to their children, instead whenever a friend of mine run out of credits he can just ask his parents for a reload. And the prepaid model; you are paying for things that you that you are not sure to use yet. The phones? Just ask the parents, they will buy!
So ends my rant. If you are giving too much to your children right now, they might become laid back in the future, waiting for opportunities to drop in their lap instead of searching for it. Can your children feel the financial difficulties you're having? I had.
As Will Smith said, "Too many people spend money they don't have, to buy things they don't need, to impress people they don't like."